I realized I was angry...at some interval after I had been sad for a point. It might have been around 2010 sometime...toward summer? Prior to this time I had gone to counseling for depression. My Counselor worked hard with me to modify my behavior and help me identify my FEELINGS. At that time (around 2007/2008), I was having great difficulty knowing what my true feelings were. I could not differentiate between sadness and anger or even fear! Hindsight really does bring everything into perspective and so I now can clearly see that situations that were troubling me had deeper roots then I ever imagined. I no longer dwell on "the past" so to speak...but for the purpose of this blog, we are examining rather than dwelling. There were people, situations, information being witheld from me, deceivers and people with their own agendas....hidden enemies and plots. One of my astrologers pointed out that the TRUTH can be crazier than fiction and she wasn't kidding! Thanks to the NEW energy on the planet now in 2012 and the openness of many people (their hearts are softer and more authentic now)...we have a unique opportunity to reverse some destructive patterns and to heal some unhealthy conditions. And when I say "we", I mean all of humanity and all people in their individual lives...I also mean "Me"!
There are so many reasons to smile...and so many reasons to embrace life and share in the LOVE that is all around us. In some cases, Love is better referenced as Loving Kindness...to indicate that I mean it in the sense of demonstrating and showing love to others. Everytime we choose to show love, feel love, embody love, give love, embrace love....we increase the vibrational frequency of the entire planet. In doing this, we stand the chance of better tomorrows...regardless of what we felt today! It honestly doesn't matter if someone treated you badly today. Did you react? Did you put more anger and hate and violence out into the Universe as a result of being hurt? Did you react rather than demonstrate Loving Kindness? Did you even attempt to become mindful of your dominant thoughts, or did you simply retaliate? I bet you thought or said, "I deserve better than that"' or "They were stupid for cutting me off." The truth is, your reaction was just as bad as their "flaw". You and I are no better than them. We are all connected...flawed...imperfect...capable of evil OR good. Everything comes to choices we make. Choose to react and you lose your power to heal this world. Choose to work on the Inner person and offer Loving kindness and a smile to those around you and you could be that single butterfly who's flapping wings change the course of everything for the better. You truly are THAT powerful.
Understanding
The virtue of being a truly understanding individual is lost in this world. Where has understanding gone? When I run into a person who actually can demonstrate a good amount of genuine understanding, I am truly in awe because there are honestly so few out there. People can have the occassional connection where they really listen and look and SEE with their hearts and not just their eyes. However, very few really ARE understanding and apply the quality to their relationships. Applying understanding has to be repeated (much like taking breaths and blinking). It is not enough to be understanding once in the morning and then decide you have done your due diligence for the day. If we all did that and then went back to ignorance and indifference toward our fellow man, we would not be very good friends, parents, spouses or employees. Imagine if your boss was only understanding to the first person they talk to on any given day and you needed him or her to excuse you for being late to work. Since it was not going to be your day to get understanding, you would be hurt, disappointed, angry, jealous, frustrated...who knows, maybe it was the day when you needed it the most and this sent you into a spiral of negative worrying. All for a lack of understanding! It costs us NOTHING to stop the cycle and simply offer some kindness and compassion. Someone asks for forgiveness...accept. Someone asks for an apology...give it. Someone needs encouragement....offer some! It is not difficult. The only requirement is that you are available for people....in emotional ways, physical ways and with a willingness to use your mind or resources to help them live a better life or feel better. We don't apply understanding because we have these filters of judgement that we look through when we look at others. We see what we don't like or approve of in them and we focus on that. Imagine if everyone you know was doing that with you? What would they see? How would they filter you out and where would you stand in their mind? Judgement is a great separator of people.If someone were to judge me they might focus on the fact that I am slightly overweight and that my hair is constantly messy or frizzy. They may wonder why I don't spend more time moisturizing it to keep it smoother or why I wear the style of clothing I wear instead of something more in their taste. I could be judged about the foods I eat or how I cook. Why did I make that recipe that way when it is supposed to be this way? Why do I drive THAT car or use THAT bank? Something or someone else is better....or perhaps the most deadly of all: "Why are you friends with that person/married to that person"? The worst thing anyone can do is insult a person's spouse or children...especially in front of other relatives. We have all done it. I am guilty. But I know now how painful it is for a person to be told that their choices are not good enough.
It is not hard to be a more understanding person. It takes motivation...practice...diligence. You have to be mindful in every moment you are socializing. When you pay the Gas Station attendant and haphazardly ask for $20 on pump 2...take a moment to listen to the tone of their voice when they speak to you. What is it saying? Someone could call out a cheery hello the moment you open the door....that is great customer service! Let them know you appreciate it! It means SO much. On the flipside, maybe you got the cold shoulder and then they dropped your change and clumsily scraped it up with an embarrassed apology for "being out of it today". Offer that person something to smile about. People do their best everyday. They get up and fight off the blues and show up to work with their financial burdens and relationship difficulties heavy on their hearts and minds and they still try to serve and give. Some days it can be all they can muster, just to squeak out a meek "hello". Give them something to HOPE for. If you are reading my blog then you are probably capable of doing this. Some of my friends and loved ones who need to hear this so desperately, don't even have enough faith to read what I write...let alone use it to transform them.
My friends, I CARE for you. I offer my meditations of love daily and I think of you all fondly. I hope you do the same for me...and many others!
Lilac
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